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# Jiu-Jitsu and Intimate Partner Violence, feat. D'Juan Owens
- URL: https://fightingmatters.com/jiu-jitsu-and-intimate-partner-violence-feat-djuan-owens/
- Published: 2025-05-28T11:26:02.000Z
- Updated: 2026-10-12T05:17:50.000Z
- Description: Jesse Walker, Jeff Shaw, and Steve Kwan are joined by longtime martial artist, educator, and activist D’Juan Owens.
- Author: Fighting Matters
- Tags: Podcast, Video, Self-Defense

Jesse Walker, Jeff Shaw, and Steve Kwan are joined by longtime martial artist, educator, and activist D’Juan Owens. Together, they examine how self-defense training often overlooks the realities of abuse, how martial arts culture can enable victim blaming, and what it really means to create a safe, accountable training environment.  
  
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👥 Featuring:  
 • D’Juan Owens – Martial artist, educator, activist  
 • Jesse Walker – @RoughHandsBJJ  
 • Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬  
 • Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬  
  
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🧠 Topics We Cover:  
  
• Why most self-defense seminars miss the mark  
• The myth of the stranger in the alley  
• How martial arts culture can enable abuse  
• The importance of teaching consent and boundaries  
• What it means to build a safer gym culture  
  
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📖 Chapters:  
  
[00:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&ref=fightingmatters.com) Introduction to D’Juan Owens and His Work  
[00:50](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=50s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Journey into Gender-Based Violence Advocacy  
[09:22](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=562s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Teaching Self-Defense and Positive Masculinity  
[11:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=660s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Understanding Privilege and Victim Blaming  
[13:06](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=786s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Complexity of Privilege and Systemic Issues  
[18:37](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1117s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Understanding Privilege and Responsibility  
[21:20](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1280s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Psychology of Self-Defense  
[22:14](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1334s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Misconceptions in Self-Defense Training  
[23:25](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1405s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Reality of Assaults  
[26:56](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1616s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Accountability and Cultural Norms  
[28:25](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1705s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Fallacy of Both Sides  
[30:11](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=1811s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Moral Cowardice in Jiu-Jitsu  
[34:07](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=2047s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Role of Messengers in Self-Defense  
[37:04](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=2224s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Setting Boundaries and Consent  
[42:21](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=2541s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Importance of Power and Responsibility  
[48:35](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=2915s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Understanding Risk and Personality in Young Adults  
[49:32](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=2972s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Importance of Mixed Gender Seminars  
[51:20](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=3080s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Creating a Toolkit for Situational Awareness  
[53:13](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=3193s&ref=fightingmatters.com) The Role of Consent in Self-Defense Training  
[58:27](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=3507s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Navigating Consent and Communication in Martial Arts  
[01:01:58](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=3718s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Challenging Toxic Masculinity in Martial Arts  
[01:09:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=4140s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Addressing Misconceptions About Women in Jiu Jitsu  
[01:13:17](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5Dga9pC6k&t=4397s&ref=fightingmatters.com) Cultural Sensitivity in Self-Defense Training